Be the coffee.

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Be the coffee? What does that even mean??

We stumbled upon this really great story and just had to share!

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her – her husband had cheated on her and she was devastated. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as soon as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, ‘Tell me what you see.’

‘Carrots, eggs, and coffee,’ she replied.

Her grandmother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The grandmother then asked the granddaughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the grandmother asked the granddaughter to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked, ‘What does it mean, grandmother?’

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain.. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

So much inspo and motivation to be a fighter and stay a fighter. Don’t let bad situations change you for the worse. Instead, hold your ground and see the perspective and recognize the learning experience in each situation. Stay positive and turn the situation around. Dominate the situation. Be the coffee.

XX

J&C


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Day By Day

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One of our favorite things to remember is to take life day by day. Try to not worry about the past, that only causes depression. Try to not worry about the future, that only causes anxiety. And all of these cause stress on you and this kind of stress is a very bad thing.

If you’ve made mistakes in your past, learn from it and move on. There are so many days where we drank too much or ate what we shouldn’t have or did something we weren’t very proud of. We gave ourselves a few minutes to dwell on it and then moved on.

Worrying about the past only prevents you from being present.

Of course there are bigger life events that occur and are much harder to get over. But be smart about it. Break ups are AWFUL and we would never wish them on anyone. And deaths, those are even worse. This is when it’s really important to 1. take things day by day and 2. take care of yourself. Make sure you are sleeping, exercising and working out well. We could do a whole other post (or ten) on these topics so we won’t get too into it but just remember, give yourself time and take things day by day because it’s the only way to stay sane.

Day by day, step by step

This applies to so many different life scenarios, even happy ones! Starting a new job, new school or new workout plan? It is hard in the beginning. So much work and effort. It’s scary and exhausting. But just remember, you have a goal, and you will get there. Don’t overwhelm yourself with the end goal. Set daily goals. Every morning wake up and think about what you’re thankful for and set a goal for that day. Maybe it’s make a new friend or maybe it’s 5 minutes more on the elliptical. Small, daily goals will get you there. We promise! Just keep going.

Once you begin to lose sight and get stressed and anxious and depressed, you spiral out of control. Everything builds up and gets worse and it feels like you’ve got elephants sitting on you, preventing you from feeling better and getting through it all. Breathe. Count to 10. Imagine yourself on a beach or in the mountains. Come back to reality and write it out. Write about how you’re feeling or write about what you’re going to do to get back to normal.

We’ve been there quite a few times in our lives^^^ – even lately.

Create a plan of action, take off the crazy pants and put your smile back on. We love to create daily, weekly or monthly lists so we know when we need to get everything done by. When you plan it out, it all seems like so much less. It’s amazing. And there’s just something about physically crossing things off a list that makes you feel just wonderful.

Happy MonYAY, babes! Stay strong and stay motivated We’ve got this life thang.

XX

J&C


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Being a bad-ass during tough times

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Happy Monday, Babes!

There is no better way to start your week than by setting your intentions and choosing to make the most of whatever gets thrown your way… because shit gets thrown your way, constantly. If you don’t have some sort of plan of action, your next best bet is to decide how you will handle these yucky situations when they do happen.

Money. Oh, money, you son of a beech. Money can hands-down cause more stress than anything else that life throws at is. Mainly because life doesn’t throw money at us. Your car breaks down, your unexpected medical bills pile up, you can’t find a job. Whatever it is, these things happen and the worst thing we can do is let the stress of money consume us. Find a side-job like babysitting or running someone’s errands. There are ways to make extra cash. Try TaskRabbit or good old fashioned Craigslist (just be careful).

Love. Or lack there-of can really affect your moods and your social life. You might avoid going places or try to go other places to hide or seek from suitors. Sometimes you don’t get the person you want. Sometimes you don’t want the person you have. The best thing you can do in these situations is follow your gut. You know if you’re happy with someone. If you’re not, move on. If you can’t be with that person, try to live your life the best way you can while you manage your sadness. The sadness will get better, it always does.

Health. This is a tough one! We tend to get so caught up with what is going on at work, our personal lives or just running errands that sometimes our health gets put on the back burner. Don’t let it. Make exercise a priority. If you want happy hour, pick one day that you will go for drinks after work and commit the other days to heading straight to the gym or to your favorite hiking trail. You can always go for dinner and drinks after. Also, pack a lunch. Bringing food will save money and keep you from making bad quick-lunch decisions. We like to follow our favorite fitness trainers and healthy meal accounts on Instagram as well. Having the visuals as you scroll social media when you’re bored might give you a little motivation. Try Tone It UP for a ton of motivation and healthy recipes.

God does think you’re a bad-ass. You are a bad-ass. Life is tough and busy and full of unexpected events. You can never fully prepare yourself but you can choose how you deal with what is thrown at you. Keep your chin up, manage your time and know that it will get better. And then it will get tough again, but you will make it through that as well.

Keep being a bad-ass and make Monday’s the start of your awesome week of being alive, not your work week.


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7 Cardinal Rules For Life

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→ 1. Make peace with your past so it won’t disturb your present.

Everyone has baggage. That’s a fact. But don’t let what happened to you in your past, change the way you see the present and the future. Make sure you deal with what has happened and really give yourself time to figure it out. You want to be the best you that you possibly can. You want to be your happiest you. If you aren’t complete yourself, you’ll never be able to be complete with a partner.

→ 2. What other people think of you is none of your business.

If you think hard about this one…it really isn’t your business. Yes, it hurts and it stings and it makes you feel awful when you hear that people are talking about you but if they have the balls to talk bad about someone, why would you care one smidge about them?! Really, though. Surround yourself with people that won’t talk about you and don’t care about the people that do. Most of the time people talk about you because they are jealous. You are doing things they can’t or you have things they want but don’t have. We’ve experienced a ton of this growing up – especially from girls. But we always chose not to care because why would we let a jealous, incomplete person bring us down? They can work on themselves why we work on ourselves and neither of us needs to care about the other.

→ 3. Time heals almost everything. Give it time.

Can’t stress this one enough. There are so many things that cannot be healed with anything but time. We’ve moved halfway across the country for guys or were given promise rings and spent so many years with someone just to be let down in the end. Break-ups are no joke and you never wish that kind of pain on ANYONE. Nobody deserves to hurt so bad that it feels like your heart is actually cracking into pieces inside your body. Take that time to remember the good times and focus on things about yourself you’d like to change or do differently. Don’t go out every night and get drunk and meet a bunch of new guys to date because that only suppresses the hurt and it will eventually come out later. And when that happens, it takes that much longer to start the healing process. Let yourself have that time.

And the same goes for losing anyone at all. It seems that only time can heal the pain. Let yourself have that time.

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→ 4. No one is in charge of your happiness. Except you.

WORD. Ever noticed how you can be in a room of happy people and still not be happy because of something going on in your life? That’s because YOU control YOUR emotions. Nobody else does. Make sure you’re happy with yourself and love yourself. You’re the most important here. Once you are there, you will be a person that everyone wants to be around. People love happy people because they make them feel better about themselves. Be that happy person everyone loves.

→ 5. Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them, you have no idea what their journey is all about.

When you start to compare, you start to think about what you don’t have and this is where jealousy starts to take it’s toll. We aren’t perfect humans and we all get jealous at times but if you remember to stop the comparing, you’ll be a much happier person. It doesn’t matter what you have or don’ have, what only matters is the person you are. Be a good person and don’t judge. If someone looks unhappy or is being mean, understand that they might be going through something. Be nice to them anyway. Our mothers always told us, “kill them with kindness.” We like to live by that.

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→ 6. Stop thinking too much. It’s all right not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it.

Some things you just won’t find the answers to. Stop thinking too hard about it and let it be. We get that it can be hard to get past something but you’ll never get the answer you are looking for and instead will waste too much precious time thinking about it and searching for it. Just let. it. be.

→ 7. Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world.

This is a great one to remember. No matter how bad you think a situation is, there is always someone in a worse situation. Smile about all that you do have. Find the positives in every situation and let those make you laugh or help you smile. Plus, did you know that making yourself smile will actually put you in a better mood. Try smiling at a stranger – their response will make you feel better:)

J&C


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