Be the coffee.

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Be the coffee? What does that even mean??

We stumbled upon this really great story and just had to share!

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her – her husband had cheated on her and she was devastated. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as soon as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, ‘Tell me what you see.’

‘Carrots, eggs, and coffee,’ she replied.

Her grandmother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The grandmother then asked the granddaughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the grandmother asked the granddaughter to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked, ‘What does it mean, grandmother?’

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain.. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

So much inspo and motivation to be a fighter and stay a fighter. Don’t let bad situations change you for the worse. Instead, hold your ground and see the perspective and recognize the learning experience in each situation. Stay positive and turn the situation around. Dominate the situation. Be the coffee.

XX

J&C


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Being a bad-ass during tough times

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Happy Monday, Babes!

There is no better way to start your week than by setting your intentions and choosing to make the most of whatever gets thrown your way… because shit gets thrown your way, constantly. If you don’t have some sort of plan of action, your next best bet is to decide how you will handle these yucky situations when they do happen.

Money. Oh, money, you son of a beech. Money can hands-down cause more stress than anything else that life throws at is. Mainly because life doesn’t throw money at us. Your car breaks down, your unexpected medical bills pile up, you can’t find a job. Whatever it is, these things happen and the worst thing we can do is let the stress of money consume us. Find a side-job like babysitting or running someone’s errands. There are ways to make extra cash. Try TaskRabbit or good old fashioned Craigslist (just be careful).

Love. Or lack there-of can really affect your moods and your social life. You might avoid going places or try to go other places to hide or seek from suitors. Sometimes you don’t get the person you want. Sometimes you don’t want the person you have. The best thing you can do in these situations is follow your gut. You know if you’re happy with someone. If you’re not, move on. If you can’t be with that person, try to live your life the best way you can while you manage your sadness. The sadness will get better, it always does.

Health. This is a tough one! We tend to get so caught up with what is going on at work, our personal lives or just running errands that sometimes our health gets put on the back burner. Don’t let it. Make exercise a priority. If you want happy hour, pick one day that you will go for drinks after work and commit the other days to heading straight to the gym or to your favorite hiking trail. You can always go for dinner and drinks after. Also, pack a lunch. Bringing food will save money and keep you from making bad quick-lunch decisions. We like to follow our favorite fitness trainers and healthy meal accounts on Instagram as well. Having the visuals as you scroll social media when you’re bored might give you a little motivation. Try Tone It UP for a ton of motivation and healthy recipes.

God does think you’re a bad-ass. You are a bad-ass. Life is tough and busy and full of unexpected events. You can never fully prepare yourself but you can choose how you deal with what is thrown at you. Keep your chin up, manage your time and know that it will get better. And then it will get tough again, but you will make it through that as well.

Keep being a bad-ass and make Monday’s the start of your awesome week of being alive, not your work week.


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Mantra Monday: St. Patrick’s Day Version!

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In the spirit of St. Patrick’s Day (Obviously we LOVE it), we decided to dedicate Mantra Monday’s to Irish blessings! There are so many wonderful and uplifting blessings from the Irish heritage and it’s a great way to keep your spirits up throughout your week. Here are a few popular ones and a few of our favorites!

 

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7 Cardinal Rules For Life

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→ 1. Make peace with your past so it won’t disturb your present.

Everyone has baggage. That’s a fact. But don’t let what happened to you in your past, change the way you see the present and the future. Make sure you deal with what has happened and really give yourself time to figure it out. You want to be the best you that you possibly can. You want to be your happiest you. If you aren’t complete yourself, you’ll never be able to be complete with a partner.

→ 2. What other people think of you is none of your business.

If you think hard about this one…it really isn’t your business. Yes, it hurts and it stings and it makes you feel awful when you hear that people are talking about you but if they have the balls to talk bad about someone, why would you care one smidge about them?! Really, though. Surround yourself with people that won’t talk about you and don’t care about the people that do. Most of the time people talk about you because they are jealous. You are doing things they can’t or you have things they want but don’t have. We’ve experienced a ton of this growing up – especially from girls. But we always chose not to care because why would we let a jealous, incomplete person bring us down? They can work on themselves why we work on ourselves and neither of us needs to care about the other.

→ 3. Time heals almost everything. Give it time.

Can’t stress this one enough. There are so many things that cannot be healed with anything but time. We’ve moved halfway across the country for guys or were given promise rings and spent so many years with someone just to be let down in the end. Break-ups are no joke and you never wish that kind of pain on ANYONE. Nobody deserves to hurt so bad that it feels like your heart is actually cracking into pieces inside your body. Take that time to remember the good times and focus on things about yourself you’d like to change or do differently. Don’t go out every night and get drunk and meet a bunch of new guys to date because that only suppresses the hurt and it will eventually come out later. And when that happens, it takes that much longer to start the healing process. Let yourself have that time.

And the same goes for losing anyone at all. It seems that only time can heal the pain. Let yourself have that time.

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→ 4. No one is in charge of your happiness. Except you.

WORD. Ever noticed how you can be in a room of happy people and still not be happy because of something going on in your life? That’s because YOU control YOUR emotions. Nobody else does. Make sure you’re happy with yourself and love yourself. You’re the most important here. Once you are there, you will be a person that everyone wants to be around. People love happy people because they make them feel better about themselves. Be that happy person everyone loves.

→ 5. Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them, you have no idea what their journey is all about.

When you start to compare, you start to think about what you don’t have and this is where jealousy starts to take it’s toll. We aren’t perfect humans and we all get jealous at times but if you remember to stop the comparing, you’ll be a much happier person. It doesn’t matter what you have or don’ have, what only matters is the person you are. Be a good person and don’t judge. If someone looks unhappy or is being mean, understand that they might be going through something. Be nice to them anyway. Our mothers always told us, “kill them with kindness.” We like to live by that.

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→ 6. Stop thinking too much. It’s all right not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it.

Some things you just won’t find the answers to. Stop thinking too hard about it and let it be. We get that it can be hard to get past something but you’ll never get the answer you are looking for and instead will waste too much precious time thinking about it and searching for it. Just let. it. be.

→ 7. Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world.

This is a great one to remember. No matter how bad you think a situation is, there is always someone in a worse situation. Smile about all that you do have. Find the positives in every situation and let those make you laugh or help you smile. Plus, did you know that making yourself smile will actually put you in a better mood. Try smiling at a stranger – their response will make you feel better:)

J&C


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Be Your Own Valentine

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Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and single or taken, it causes a lot of different emotions.

We’ve always loved Valentine’s day whether we had someone special or not. We don’t use this day to only celebrate being in a relationship, we use this day to celebrate every single person we love. We give cards and fun little gifts to our family and close friends. We bake cookies for the people we work with. We spread more love everywhere.

We also use this holiday to celebrate ourselves. We’ll eat things we normally wouldn’t eat, we will buy the more expensive champagne for ourselves and we’ll take ourselves shopping for some new cute clothes. Or sometimes we will hit the spa and splurge on a massage, facial, mani and pedi. If there’s not much money to spend, watch a marathon of your favorite movies and write a love note to yourself. Tell yourself just how damn wonderful you are.

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And even if you are in a relationship, take time to love yourself and treat yourself right. You can’t make others happy until you are happy with yourself.

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.

There are so many people out there who put way too much pressure on this day and in turn get depressed when it hits and they have nobody special to celebrate with. Don’t be that person this year. Now is the time to change it.

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We LOVE this article posted in the Huffington Post. It gives you tips and advice on how to love yourself and be happy.

A super inspiring quote from the article:

I believe in the power of failure and in my fourth decade of life, I have finally given up guilt. I have learned to fail forward, fast and often, and I embrace change and see risk taking as a new opportunity ready to be discovered.

Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself 3 things you love about yourself. What makes you proud to be you? Write this stuff down. Accept your flaws and learn to love the things you cannot change. Do this always.

And remember, Valentine’s Day is not just a couple’s holiday. It’s a holiday about love, so LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.

XX

J&C


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Gratitude

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What is gratitude?

Gratitude is defined as “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.”

Are you grateful? Have you thought about all you are grateful for?

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These days it seems it’s harder for people to be grateful. People have become more money driven and much more selfish. People want more more more instead of being thankful for all that they have.

Expressing gratitude in life is an amazing learning experience. It is one that takes practice but when you achieve it, it is one of the most satisfying feelings in the world. It makes your heart smile SO big and keeps your heart full and happy.

Being grateful for our lives and everyone in them has helped us become the extremely happy, positive people we are today. Neither of us have ever been rich when it comes to having money. We’ve grown up with parents who worked hard and  struggled to give us the life we’ve been given. But we were rich in everything else. We had amazing families with amazing morals. Parents who worked their tail off and taught us how far hardwork and determination can get you. They loved with everything they had. They gave us everything they could to make sure we never suffered. They taught us how to love and how to be thankful for every little thing in life. They taught us that just simply being alive on this planet is a true blessing. And because of all of that, we really are some of the richest kids you’ll ever meet.

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We’ve learned what matters in life. We don’t want the latest and greatest of everything. We want what we need and that’s enough. We want to spend our money on adventures and memories, not things.

At times it does get hard to be grateful. We go through lows and don’t quite understand why they are happening and why we are feeling that way. But we only let ourselves have a couple hours to mope around. We don’t ever let the bad take away from us living. Every second you are mad or unhappy is a second you won’t get back. If we can’t find a positive in the situation, we think about all the other positives in our life. We text a friend or a loved one and vent and have them help us get back to normal. Sometimes we cry…hard. Working out even helps! Chantelly has always turned to this to get through break-ups or stressful life events. She loves running and cycle class the best. She imagines that every stride or pedal stroke is another step further from the bad and closer to the good. She imagines leaving everything behind her and just running/pedaling forward. The harder she works, the further she gets in a shorter amount of time. It may sound silly but it has saved her in many ways.

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The mind is a powerful thing and sometimes you have to work hard to train it. So practice. Practice every single day. There is so much to be thankful for because life is beautiful.

Here is a great way to learn how to express gratitude: 9 Ways To Cultivate Gratitude. There’s a pretty cool app our there too called Unstuck. It’ supposed to send you helpful tools to get you get unstuck and help you move forward.

Another article we love: How To Start a Gratitude Practice To Change Your Life

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P.S. Our hearts are SOOO incredibly full after the amazing response we’ve received over the past month! We surpassed our goal of 500 followers and ended with 531! We’ve gotten so many love notes from some amazing supporters. Things like this keep us going. Hopefully, someday soon, we will be making a big impact on a much bigger audience thanks to you all.

♥XX

J&C


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